cerita kelas terakhir parenting.. : )

assalamualikum..

huhu..ari ni klas terakhir parenting..n0 presentati0n sebab sir suleiman bu0y0 nk abihkan syllibus..tp abih kelas dia tanya pendapat setiap 0rang 0n "h0w t0 be a g00d parent"..macam2 pendapat la ada.. ada yang kata kena bagi didikan agama, jadi r0le m0del yang baik, penyayang, understanding, bla..bla..bla..  tapi dalam banyak2 tu aku tertarik dengan jawapan cik nana..huhu..dia cakap < "t0 be a g00d parent, i w0uld f0ll0w 0n h0w my parents teach me because t0 me my parents is the best.." s0rt 0f la..aku pun x ingat sangat ayat sebenar nana tu..tapi pada aku jawapan dia sh0rt n sweet..huhuhu..

yup..it's true..experience is the best teacher..and rasanya memang betul pendapat nana tu..nak jadi parents yang baik, kita mesti ikut berdasarkan pemerhatian kita sendiri macam mana parents kita didik kita kan..s0 parents is the best r0le m0del f0r the children..everything is started fr0m h0me..great!and we cann0t think that parenting skills educati0n sh0uld started after marriage 0r after having baby..it sh0uld start fr0m the y0ung age..a g00d parent is a g00d r0le m0del.. s0, a g00d parent sh0uld have a g00d educati0n and g00d religi0us kn0wledge..and all 0f the kn0wledge sh0uld be gained started fr0m the y0ung age..thank G0d parenting subject is 0ne 0f the uia c0urse requirement..huhuhuhu..

huhu..supp0sely aku kne present satu tajuk yang aku rasa cam best jugak masa kelas tadi tapi tak sempat sebab lecturer nak habiskan syllabus..0f c0urse the c0ntent 0f the presentati0n might have s0me mistakes (sebab ni pendapat budak2 yang bel0m kawen..hahaha) 0keylah..aku share je lah isi kandungan presentati0n yang tak seberapa tu kat sini..tajuknya lebih kurang camni la.. "what is the best way 0f s0lving c0nflict in marriage" dalam assignment yang hantar tu merepek sikit punya panjang tapi dekat sini aku summarykan la ye..

antara cara untuk s0lve c0nflict:

1.kenal pasti punca masalah
actually ada tanda2 yang menunjukkan perhubungan tu ada masalah..antaranya kurang k0munikasi, bergaduh sebab benda kecik2, and als0 is0lated each 0ther 0r m0st 0f the time they d0 everything separately..n bila tau punca masalah tu sendiri, lagi senang nak s0lve pr0blem..biasanya fact0r 0f marriage c0nflict ni financial, anak, and 0rang ke3..jeng3..

2.berk0munikasilah dengan baik with y0ur sp0use
da tau punca masalah tu bawak2 la berbincang..antara tips best, banyakkan guna perkataan "saya" berbanding "awak"..its better t0 say "i feel really dissap0inted" rather than saying "y0u dissapp0int me"..benda simple je tapi kesan tu mendalam..huhuh..

3. be a g00d listener..
perbincangan tu tak kan jadi apa2 kalau dengar pendapat sebelah pihak je..just listen t0 whatever y0ur sp0use saying t00..d0n't be selfish as the sp0use has the right t00..be frank n jangan nak menuduh yang bukan2..

4. c0ntr0l y0ur anger
remember that y0u are c0mmunicate with the pers0n that y0u l0ve, n0t y0ur enemy..tak ada istilah nak menang ke, nak kalah ke..think bef0re y0u speak because certain w0rds may hurt y0ur sp0use..it is easy t0 say bad wrds but it is hard t0 take it back...00uuuuccchhh!

5. ngaku je la kalau dah salah tu
tak el0k menjulang eg0 tu melangit..tak untung apa2 p0n..

6.hadiah
n0t necessary an expensive 0ne la..maybe s0mething simple tapi memberi kesan..example: c00king a special dish f0r the partner..tapi kalau dapat r0s biru p0n sweet jugak kan?hahaha.. (usually girls/w0men prefer red r0ses, but i prefer the blue..hahah..ye..taste aku pelik..sume 0rang cakap camtu)

7.f0rgive and f0rget..
n0b0dy is perfect..every0ne d0 mistakes in life..y0ur sp0use is a human being, n0t an angel..even ALLAH gives chance t0 repent..wh0 are we t0 decide n0t t0 f0rgive s0me0ne?every0ne deserves a sec0nd chance..rite?

as a c0nclusi0n, div0rce is n0t the 0nly answer, it's n0t make y0u happy either..

END 0F PRESENTATI0N..hahaha